Proverbs 12:1 states that, “Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid.” Throughout the years of my ministry it has become increasingly obvious that so many parents have spiritually shipwrecked children due to their failure to follow through on this passage. Parents stare at me with eyes wide open and ask why this is happening to their family. After all, they have brought their children to church, made them participate in Sunday School, enrolled them in VBS–they may have even attended Christian schools and yet the child is callous to instruction, undisciplined in his living, and self-centered in his thinking. Spiritual realities are so foreign and rebellion oozes out of them at every opportunity. They scoff at leadership and make excuses for failures by attributing their personal failure to everyone but themselves.
This is to be sure a characteristic of our society as a whole. Many children today are just products of rebellion of their parents. In my experience, the root of so much rebellion in children can be directly traced to the subtle rebelliousness of parents who dismiss their personal character failures as just “the way I am,” or slight idiosyncracies attributable to genetics. In short, a lack of submission to authority demonstrated in persistent attempts to thwart instruction and live life on their terms is the method of parents who breed rebels. When your children (who are more observant than you think) see the side-stepping techniques of parents to thumb their noses at authority they will immediately begin to develop a cynical, suspicious, jaundiced view of God-given leadership.
The fool sticks to his own ways because they are his. A parent who rejects godly instruction believes himself too intelligent to need the advice of others. Things will turn out better if he does it his own way because everything he does is right (12:15). Scripturally, wise people listen to authority and advice. As a matter of fact verse one says he loves it! Is it not interesting that love of wisdom and knowledge is intimately connected with fearing the Lord (1:7; 2:1-5). My question to many parents is who is loved most–themselves or God?
Everyone is a work in progress but there are some basics that godly parents can do to instill a respect for authority in the lives of their children. Surely consistency in devotions and prayer, faithfulness to God’s house, punctuality and dependability at work, conscientiousness about phone calls during work hours, being meticulous about expense receipts, refraining from gossip and slander, and the list goes on.
It IS God’s will that His people be submissive to authority. We need to give our children a fighting chance at being what they should for God by modeling an attitude of sweet humility toward those whom God has set over us.